What to do when you can't face going to work
You're undervalued, overwrought and overlooked. Now, just when you think you can't take another day of it, take time to read this.
First of all, we'd like to say you're not alone. All of us - even our bosses - have had our share of hide-under-the-doona days.
But let's talk about you.
You're unhappy. You want out. But you know that leaving your job is a big decision. And it's certainly one you should not make in the heat of the moment when your emotions are running riot.
So, before you decide to jump ship, take time to answer these questions about yourself, your job and the path your career is about to take.
- Is it your job or the baggage you bring to it? If money worries or an unhappy private life are affecting your attitude at work, how much difference will a new job make? Probably very little or none at all. Be kind to yourself: take time to have a good long look at your after-hours worries. Try writing them down, then talking them through with a friend or a family member. You'll be surprised how much better you feel when you set strategies to sort them out, one by one.
- Are you bored? You're doing the same old stuff day after day. Your career is at a standstill. But have you ever put your hand up for new challenges at work? Is there a position you really want? What's stopping you? Sit down, make yourself a step-by-step career plan - and go for it!
- Are you under-appreciated? When you got the job, your employers were obviously sufficiently impressed to hire you ahead of everybody else. Now they want to be impressed again. Grab every opportunity to show them what you can do. When you see something needs doing, don't ask - do it. Meanwhile, set yourself some solid career goals. Study your business and get to know who does what, where you stand in the structure, and where you want to be. Be prepared.
- Why did you take the job - and were you ever happy? Not so long ago, you were happy in your job. What would it take to make you happy again? Perhaps it's time to remember the good times and re-discover what made them so good. Maybe it's not the job that's changed. Make a list of positives and negatives about your work. If there are more positives than negatives, there's your answer.
- Have you discussed your beefs with the boss? Our granddads used to say: The squeaky wheel gets the oil. In other words, speak up! Tell the boss what you think, where you want to go, and how you can add value to the company. Suffering in silence gets you nowhere.
- Do you need a holiday? It might be that simple. You're burned out - and everything looks grim and grey. It's amazing how much good a week or two in the sun can do for your morale. Think about it. After all, a holiday can be as good as a change.
- How will your departure look on your CV? Every time you leave a job, you invite the question: Why did you leave? Which is why you should think before you move. And if you do opt for greener pastures, don't burn your bridges en route. Prepare your exit professionally and leave with dignity. Shouted words and slammed doors can echo down the years.
If you’re going through a difficult time, please know that there’s always somewhere to turn to in dark periods. We would encourage you to call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or the beyondblue Support Service on 1300 22 4636. These services are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with counselling support, information and referrals. beyondblue also have a webchat service available from 3pm to 12am daily, which you can access at www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport
Our granddads used to say: The squeaky wheel gets the oil. In other words, speak up!
